What To Do When You Can’t Find The Next Step
Do you ever feel stuck? Like you don’t know what the next step is? Like you don’t know which path to take?
Perhaps you feel stuck in a situation that you completely dislike and you feel you have no options and no way out. Or maybe you know that there is something else out there for you, but you can’t seem to find the courage to make a change.
This state of suck-ness and indecision makes us feel as though we cannot move forward, but I have to ask the question – are we really ever stuck? Isn’t there always options?
You are not stuck anywhere. Every moment is fresh and new and in every moment you always have a choice.
But sometimes, we just don’t know what the ‘right’ choice is.
HOW TO FIND YOUR ‘NEXT STEP’
This is where a lot of my clients are at when I first chat to them. Feeling stuck. Lacking clarity. Not knowing what decision to make or what to do next.
I always ask them the same question.
“What is your heart telling you?”
And then they stop and look at me a little shocked. And they think for a moment and say, “I don’t know”
And I say, “On some level, I believe that you do”
And from there, is where the real work begins. The real work that needs to be done is to reconnect with that quiet, loving voice deep within you that knows the answer. It is there. But for each of you there will be varying levels of ‘stuff’ piled on top of it blocking your ability to find it.
It has probably been whispering to you for a while now, but maybe you have not been listening. It has been talking to you through your feelings, through those moments where you feel inspired, exhilarated and alive. It has been drawing your attention to things that interest you and leading you to blogs, books or activities that are right for you.
But you have not heard it.
Your work is now to listen to it, rather than question it. The path it is guiding you towards may be an unconventional one. It may challenge you and cause you to face to your fears. And so, often your head will jump in very quickly to talk you out of it, and as a result you never get to truly hear what this little voice has to say.
But it is there inside of you. Guiding you. Waiting for you to listen. On some level you already know what it is that you need to do. It is just time to acknowledge that.
HOW TO HEAR YOUR INNER GUIDANCE
Create space for your inner voice to speak
Our inner voice cannot be heard amongst the endless chatter of the mind. And you cannot possibly tune in to it while you are busily running around ticking items off your to do list. In order to hear this voice you need quietness and stillness.
Set aside some time for yourself each day to practice being still, slowing down your racing mind and sitting in quietness. It may take some time for you to relax in to this space. But as you practice you will find your self soften, open up and become still.
Become familiar with how it communicates
In this quiet and still space that you have created, take some time to journal and reflect on what you are feeling. The feelings you get from being connected to your heart and intuition are unique to everyone, so start to become familiar with what it feels like to you.
Does it feel like love, excitement, aliveness, joy, passion, or inspiration?
Do you get butterflies in your tummy? A light, open feeling in your heart? Do you feel moved to tears?
Do you hear guidance through your intuition in the form of words or pictures? Or do you just have a sense of knowing about things?
Press pause on fear
Any time heart-based ideas or inspirations come to you, allow yourself to hear them and acknowledge them without allowing fear to jump in and tear them down. Press pause on your fear temporarily. Put it to the side.
Create a fear-free zone in your meditation space and do not allow fear to stomp on your precious dreams. This will allow your heart to speak up fully and will let you truly hear its guidance loud and clear.
Top photo credit: Davey Woodhouse
Positive affirmation for the day: I always have more options.
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